This post is part of a series on Debunking the 10 (+1) Lies About Trans People.
Myth #8: You can tell someone is transgender just by looking at them
There is this notion out there that you can tell a “tranny” from a mile away. Supposedly, transsexuals all look like freaks of nature.
Let me just say two things to this:
- Many transgender people are perfectly “passable” – you would never guess where they’ve come from. In fact, many transgender people are externally as well as internally beautiful even by society’s unfair standards.
- Even if a transsexual does not meet society’s aesthetic standards, it shouldn’t matter anyway. Should people assume all transsexuals look “different”? No, because it’s simply not true. However, even if it were true, it is EXTREMELY SUPERFICIAL to judge people only by their looks! Don’t we have enough problems in the world from humanity being objectified and held to impossible standards!?
Now I could rant and rave for pages on the close-mindedness, superficiality, bigotry, misogyny, homophobia, and falsehood that accompanies this myth, but I’d prefer to have real transwomen speak for themselves.
Here is what society expects us to look like:
Here is the real deal:
(clicking on their pictures will send you to their videos)
And finally the beautiful Emma B. with some wonderful affirmations for other transwomen:
I think these beautiful transwomen speak for themselves simply by being. There is no need to argue against the myth that trans people are ugly when the wonderful reality is literally in front of our eyes. What these women embody in their successful physical transition is what every trans person embodies in the secret depths of their soul. Not everyone can express their inner identity with the same ease as these amazing women, but that doesn’t change the true, present, hidden beauty that is objectively there and that the world sometimes refuses to see.
As a final note, I want to say something about the true nature of beauty. Consider the Mona Lisa:
The truth is that Lady Lisa is not a particularly attractive woman by either the standards of today or the time she lived in. She’s a far cry from Botticelli breathtaking Venus:
However, the Mona Lisa has been recognized by many generations as a beautiful work of art. She is intriguing, inviting, mysterious, restrained, elusive, ironic, individual, and charming. She has a more immediate beauty compared to the high “ideal” of Venus. She’s not just an object of perfection like Venus; she’s real. When you see that tiny, underwhelming painting in the Louvre, you can pretend that you know her. In her you become acquainted with a different kind of beauty, a kind that is just as real as Boticelli’s sensuous goddess.
I did a google search for “ugly transsexual,” and unfortunately an image of this wonderful transwoman came up:
Does this woman look like Catherine Zeta Jones? No. But is she beautiful? I would like to say yes. Stop looking at her as if she were an object or a curiosity! Look at her as a human being with an infinite, mysterious capacity to love and be loved. This transwoman is not a freak or a sideshow, or even remotely ugly. She is a wonderful, unique, individual human being who deserves the utmost respect. Think of Mona Lisa. There are secrets and hidden beauties behind this woman’s face that any person should feel privileged to affirm. She is a child of God, and I say she is breathtakingly beautiful.
“Everything has beauty, but not everyone sees it.”
- Myth #1: Transgender people live crazy lives.
- Myth #2: Transgender people are confused.
- Myth #3: Transgender people are mentally disturbed.
- Myth #4: Transgender people are gay.
- Myth #5: Transgender people are radical liberals with crazy ideas.
- Myth #6: Transgender people hate their bodies.
- Myth #7: Transgender people perform in drag shows.
- Myth #8: You can tell someone is transgender just by looking at them.
- Myth #9: Transgender people aren’t “real” men or women.
- Myth #10: Transgender people are weird.
- Myth #11: Sex and gender are straightforward.